Life Lessons · mental health

Parenting in the Tik Tok era…

Yep you heard that correctly. What in the actual heck?! I love being a mom and as we approach Mother’s Day I am reflecting on how difficult it is to be a parent in 2021.

I’m going to end up sounding a bit like a boomer and say that the world was just different when I was growing up. But as a self professed Gen X’er (despite my millennial birth year) I know that things change. I think the one thing that anyone born before 1992 can attest is that the complete and utterly unrestricted access to everything at the click of a button has a huge influence on the rising generations. In fact “influencer” is now a lucrative profession. Ask a 13 year old what they want to be when they grow up and I’m certain the answer would not be a lawyer or a doctor.

As a parent in the age of “all information,” whether it’s fact or fiction, I can tell that parenting sucks. Yeah yeah children are a blessing blah blah. Don’t get me wrong, they are. I adore my girls but this is the hardest damn job I’ve ever had. It’s harder than nursing school, giving birth, or driving an 18 wheeler on the turnpike. (I wouldn’t know about that last one but it looks nerve wracking) I ask my stepmom who has been a preschool teacher for 25+ years, why it is so different these days and she just tells me it’s a generational thing. Well every generation has a “thing.” But part of me thinks that parents have not evolved as quickly as the influx of knowledge from the internet has evolved our children. We simply can’t keep up with the amount of information our kids are absorbing on a daily basis. Goodness that is even more of a reason to get them disconnected.

Dale and I swore up and down our kids wouldn’t have phones or iPads. Well our youngest received her first iPad as a gift when she was 2 or 3 and our oldest has had a phone for 2 years now at 13. They have had a constant stream of information into their brains from a device for 8 solid years. That’s insane. And as a nurse I can tell you it’s also dangerous. I swear it’s not me being old and crotchety. Our mental health as a species is floundering because of devices. Technology is wonderful especially in the world of medicine. But I often wonder at what cost.

So what do we do from here? I don’t freaking know. I’d love a do-over. If you have any tips drop a comment lol.